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Making Changes - One Brick at a Time By Elana Schondorf, CSW After a stressful morning at work, I was taken out of "thinking" mode and thrust into "feeling" mode. This might not have been so bad if these were positive and pleasant feelings I was experiencing. It would seem that when it rains, it pours. I was surrounded and enveloped by a sea of negativity. These gnawing feelings would have made a perfectly fine solo performance, but were soon accompanied by internal dialogue. This tape, if left unattended, seemed to play on auto-reverse. I treated myself to some solitude-an attempt at finally enjoying some good company. Because of my need to "lick my wounds", and avoid any possibility of socialization, I chose to seat myself facing a brick wall in a restaurant. This wall extended the length of the room. As I sat there, I was having difficulty getting rid of this bubble of negative feelings that was surrounding me and following me like a dark cloud. My hour of respite was somehow not doing its job. I needed to return to work in a half hour and was still feeling miserable. I suppose I thought the change in scenery by itself would lift my spirits and I would be feeling more content by osmosis. Then I remembered that I do not have to remain in this most undesirable state. I have an NLP pick-me-up toolbox! Remaining depressed was a choice and I chose to feel better as soon as possible. My head was down with my chin in my chest, as is common when one is absorbed in their feelings of sadness and self-pity. At that moment, I remembered Charlie Brown, the wisest eight year-old who ever lived. He often says, "When I get sad, I look up at the sky." If it was good enough for Americas favorite neurotic, I was willing to give it a try. I picked up on my own resistance; it was almost as if a part of me wanted to stay in that unhappy state. It was a bit of a struggle, but I forced myself to look above eye level. In a few moments, my resentment and self-pity started to disappear as I left my feeling mode and entered my visual arena. Remember that I was facing a brick wall, which I used as my timeline. Directly in front of me was my present, to the left was my past and to the right was my future. I created these wonderful scenes. The only problem was that it was so far to the right that the movie scene was practically in the kitchen! Yes, I was carving out the future, but I knew I did not want to wait 50 years for my ship to come int. So, I decided to shift the scene a few bricks to the left and move it closer to the present. I did this shift three to four times until it was six or seven bricks to the right of dead center. Now I knew my desired future was just a bricks throw away. All things considered, I think this was a very productive lunch hour. Even though I returned to work and faced the same territory, life suddenly became more comfortable and manageable because I found a more adaptable map.
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